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So difficult to be held hostage to this situation. When I was married my husband and I had a very nice income. But I knew I was unhappy and worked on myself. He did not want to work on himself. His abuse was passive agressive. I knew it was over. I have suffered terribly financially...but I AM MORE FREE and happy than I have ever been (fitting for the day)!
I know how to be on my own. I have been on my own as an adult much longer than I was married with or with a significant other. Do not get me wrong. I enjoy a relationship with a man....but I do not have to marry and move in with them and pay bills together.....For me, it stays a lot more interesting that way.
As I get older it might make sense to get married to help take care of eachother - we'll see.
If you stay - may you find your own type of freedom and be content with your life.
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“A person is also mentally weak by the quantity of time he spends to sneak peek into others lives to devalue and degrade the quality of his own life.” Anuj Somany
“Psychotherapy works by going deep into the brain and its neurons and changing their structure by turning on the right genes. The talking cure works by "talking to neurons," and that an effective psychotherapist or psychoanalyst is a "microsurgeon of the mind" who helps patients make needed alterations in neuronal networks.” Norman Doidge
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