You may like living alone more than you think you will!!! I get not wanting to in a sketchy neighborhood and it's nice to have a guy around to do guy things--- but there are huge advantages to living alone as well. Your stuff is always where you put it. You can have friends over whenever you want. You don't leave the house and come back to a mess. You aren't stressed because someone is being rude or snippy with you when all you want to do is relax. If you want to put on a movie with the volume really loud while you are cleaning the house, you aren't bothering anyone else. It's little stuff that adds up

Right now you are living with someone who used to be fun and responsible when he had a drinking problem. It would be nice if he were still that person, without the alcohol, but he has demonstrated for years that he is not that person. I would base any decisions I made on the way he is now and not the way he was then or they way it would be nice for him to be.

The idea that he will not leave even when you ask him to and that he would make you go through a formal eviction process is outrageous. Will you need to formally evict him when you leave? Does he know that you may move?

We have that same law here -- it seems insane, but there are people out there who know about these things and use them to their advantage. A friend that rents out an apartment in her house had to deal with some lunatic who stopped paying rent and then made all of these insane demands for new appliances, her own washer/dryer instead of the one they shared. It took a few months to get rid of her.

Have you read about that nanny in California at all? The one who refused to work and leave the house and who is now suggesting that the family move out until she finds a new place to live?

If it turns out you don't like living alone, maybe you could find a roommate that would actually pay half the living expenses and not argue with you all the time. I know there are worse roommates, but the majority of them would probably be better that what you have now.

Are there any universities in your area that train therapists? They might provide cheap sessions. Sometimes it is worth it to sign up for one class to gain access to those kinds of services, but rules probably vary significantly from one place to another.

I am so glad you are thinking about this stuff now, so far ahead of your move.