What you are saying is so true, having been brought up in a dysfunctional family, I have been too untrusting and so after some therapy I started to try to be very positive and trusting and it has worked out fine until three years ago I met my predator who just shocking broke up with me with all the classic traits and acts psychopaths do ... it is terrifying and painful.

It true both extremes of too trusting and too non trusting are bad. I would have to agree we ought to stay away from charming and intelligent people. They are dangerous, this man I was with omg I just cant believe how ALL the things about him in hindsight points to psychopath! I have to remind myself I am lucky that he broke up with me once he found the next victim instead of me having to do it myself, and that is if i ever snap out of the spell myself!!!

Yet it is still very painful, we have to suffer in silence since they are very very skilled at hiding who they are!!! I am so glad I am able to at least vent here!