That's it. I'm coming over with chocolates, popcorn, a bunch of chick flicks movies and the blender and we're making strawberry daiqueris. After that we need to go somewhere where we can get stupid and dance the night away... or head to a theme park and dare each other to get on the craziest rides.

And throughout the whole time we can ******, scream and cry our eyes out over our divorce situations to each other as much as we want!

Divorce is horrible thing to go through. Regardless. I mean, I've seen it where some people are like - yeah we got divorced, whatever. And others where it's made such an impact on their emotional health etc for the longest time. And others experiencing everything in between.

In my experience, mine was one of those suprise divorces I had no idea it was coming, I was and still am devastated beyond belief over the lost potential of our relationship. I grieve over the time I have lost from being stuck in a 8 year toxic marriage and coming out of it as a lifeless soul just trying to reboot my life again from scratch, living back with my parents and currently directionless at 38. I grieve over a very best friend that said forever and ever, and just last year I was thrown out like I was trash.

Change in general can be devastating too.

Does anything pop up in your head at this time for your reason for hurting so much over the divorce? No matter what it is that comes to mind, it's an important reason, and important to you.

Sending you tons of BIG hugs. It's going to be okay. Everything will be okay, and it's very much okay to grieve over it, even if it was something you wanted. Xo