Thank you, hvert. Yeah, I wish I had men in my life who were more mature and responsible. I thank God my son is an awesome young man...someday his wife will be a fortunate woman.

lizardlady, thank you for your reply. The thing is, I really don't want to live alone. The trade-offs just aren't worth it to me. What I would really like is to find some way to communicate with John so he accepts day-to-day responsibility better. He did do that at one time, so somewhere inside of him is the ability to be a responsible adult. As it is now, any attempt I make toward communicating with John seems to make him defensive and hostile. THAT is what I would like to change...I would like to be able to hear each other, and consider each other's points of view.