This thread has made me very uncomfortable. It is very hard for me to be assertive. I also have anxiety. A few days ago, I was trying very hard to help an elderly woman in home care. I was polite even though she was grumpy. Finally, after assisting her on and off the toilet, she told me I was worthless. I was blindsided by her remark. I almost left then and there. But, I said to myself, "No. You said you would make her bed before you left."
I realize now that I did the wrong thing. I allowed her to get away with treating me with disrespect. I cringe as I write this. I did not set a healthy boundary for myself. I was also concerned that she would not sign my time sheet (and I would not get paid).

Any comments or suggestions?