Dear Toesquasher,

I've often talked about this with my pdoc and T. I absolutely feel like I'm not thriving the way I could if I just had someone to hold me for a little while or hold my hand etc.
I'm sorry that I can't offer terrific advice, and I don't know the extent of your injuries, but I did find a female massage therapist that is very sensitive and does a great job. She also sometimes works in a nursing home for a few specific clients that also have arthritis and need of touch. She can come to my house, but so far, I always go to the spa to see her. I'm trying to build up to one day going to a male massage therapist, but ones that are super safe are hard to find. At least it is something to consider.
I also finally got a dog, and it is proven that animals and rubbing their fur can be of great benefit in raising endorphins. I know that you are in a wheelchair, any chance a service dog would be an option not just for the sense of touch but also for safety enhancement.
I wish you only the best and hope you can find a way to get your needs met!
Gentle hugs,
Wysteria Blue