Hi,

Sorry, If It isn't the appropriate category for this thread, but I couldn't find another.

My parents are not getting along for a long time now. You know, usual night fights. My father stated drinking few years ago, and its getting worse every day. He only works and sleeps. He was never really involved in anything, so It's not something unusual. This month he increased drinking dracstically. Maybe because of the dailly fights with my mother. She hates when he drinks and she can be vengeful, especially concerning alcohol. (She left her parents at the age of 16, because her father was drinking). So they argue either about the alcohol, or about money. Now its more than that. My mother blames him for always pulling her back and limit the opportunity to achieve anything. I don't knwo if is it some kind of mid life crisis, or the financial problems are finally showing its effect. We have a lot of depts, and even though my parents are working every day, it seems we're getting deeper and deeper. I've tried to reason with them, but they're like little kids. They don't listen, and do whatever they want to do. They both have issues and no one is gonna make a compromise. I agree with my mother that he has to stop drinking, because the alcohol littlerally drunk his brain. Even before he wasn't really emotional. I get it, I'am having troubles showing my feeling too. But now, he is not a person you wanna talk about anything. Same goes to my mother, even thought she is not a drunk. She became constantly combative and cranky, and I stopped sharing even with her, couple years ago.

Generally, It's not a problem for me if they get separated. They won't be the first nor the last. My mother will be fine, if not better. My father in other hand, probably won't be able to handle it. Even now he is a mess. He lowered his hygienic habbits, he is always drunk (he even drives drunk, even though he crashed once and suffered serious penalty) and aggresive to other people. I think he will do something stupid. Yet, I can't say to my mother to tolerate him, just because he can't live on his own. I'm now in process of learning, and once I start working I'll definately began living on my own.

Hard situation.