This information on research may give you some more information to answer your questions.


Just wondering....you yourself didn't have a male role model to guide you? It probably doesn't always make a difference....but the more the broken homes that we have & the more dysfunctional families are becoming......I am sure that is part of that 60% that has the larger influence......it's usually the mothers that end up with the kids in the broken homes.....so it doesn't surprise me where the most influence comes from......but it's a very large picture that goes into the determination....not just gene's that's only 40% according to research.

Interesting for me, I was an only child with a normal family life (even though it was very dysfunctional in many other ways because of my mother's insecurities because of her vision problem).....but I grew up in a neighborhood of mostly all guys. I would have rather been outside playing baseball or football in the street with the guys than in the house playing dolls or playing house with the few girls in the neighborhood. My whole life I never related to the conversations of women...all they could talk about were their kids & cooking & their house......I always thought....geeze..."get a life" & I definitely wanted to be NOTHING like my mother.....but I also had no desire to be like my father either as he embarrased me to death because he had no ability to have a reasonable conversation with anyone......both my parents has serious social issues.....while I was just trying to be a NORMAL kid who had no idea what normal really was. Guys just always did more interesting things IMO than girls......so my challenges in school were always against the guys.....& my career ended up being in the male dominated aerospace industry where I was one of the few women firmware engineers at the companies I worked at for 15 years. I played racquettball with the guys because the girls....well, they played like girls & weren't the challenge that I really wanted. I was the girl always attracted to the guys....but I was also attracted to them not only as friends.....but also as BF's & I never saw myself as being a guy it was mostly that I just had the interests & enjoyed competing with the guys because I liked the challenge...it was so much greater.....& I just never had the interests of kids & family & home like most women were after in my day & age. I got married & had our daughter....but honestly, I never had the bond to our daughter that most women say they have with their babies....but I would never say that I identify as a male......I'm just me who likes who I like & chooses to be with the people who interest me.....& I just don't care to tie it with anything of a sexual nature.....I am what I am & it usually doesn't fit into any category.....& I really don't care!!!!

Hope you can sort out all your feelings.......having a child out of marriage in NOT a good way to begin a family life in the first place even though everyone is doing it now......just look at all the problems that everyone is having now more so as the family base is basically disintegrating around us. I don't think that is doing anyone any favors.....& it's definitely leaving a lot of kids messed up not knowing what to think with no good role models to follow.