NO....my STBXH.....never had any common sense for the 33 years I tried to live with him...there was no different about it....it just didn't exist in any form.....& I had no common sense NOT TO GET OUT SOONER....

On a more serious level.....when I was in my DBT group for 2 years.....I realized that the DBT term wise mind is in reality what common sense is. It's seeing the big picture & figuring out what actions you need to take to deal with the situations that get thrown at you on an every day basis. If you don't see the big picture then you can't pick out the best action you need to take to resolve a problem or deal with situations.

My STBXH had a high IQ.....but he couldn't communicate with anyone.....IE, he got a letter from the IRS regarding back taxes....he not only blew off the letter & the IRS because he couldn't figure out what they were saying....but he didn't even have the common decency to tell me about the letter because it was a problem with my inheritance money that he blew it on when he KNEW IT ALL & had to do the taxes instead of having them done correctly. 10 months later when I had the mail forwarded to my new farm (after I left him)....I get the 2nd letter from the IRS telling me that the first letter had been ignored. & he did the same thing with the property taxes for the home he is living in....just quit paying because he didn't have the money....then quit paying the house payment...but never said anything to anyone & wouldn't even talk to the mortgage company. The only time he sees the cliff his train is running straight toward is after it's gone over the cliff.....THAT IS NOT COMMON SENSE.

Someone with common sense realized a problem exists & does their best to figure out a solution & then how to put the solution into practice to solve the problem.....not JUST IGNORE IT..

He's 62 years old.....& I needed to be on the joint account while paying off the IRS problem......so now I found out that he has been running the checking account on a very high negative balance....almost negative 2000 each month & had been living by paying his bills using the overdraft that the credit union offered....they offered it not for it to be abused the way he is. The credit union said that I can't get off the account as long as it's negative....& it's only positive for a few days of the month......I nicely requested STBXH to let me know when it went positive because I had a check that could only be cashed in that joint account.....& I wanted off the account.....well, he never bothered to communicate.....& I found that the account had a very small balance....so I drove to a sister credit union in the state that I live in....cashed the check.....& came home & closed the account. Common sense told me that if I ever wanted to get off the account, that was the time to do it before they closed it themselves & tried to get any extra money from ME because my name was also on the account.....common sense helps you see the big picture & do what is necessary to protect yourself.......while his lack of common sense blinded him to the fact that the negative account was going to very soon be so negative that the credit union would have closed it.....common sense is asking how in the #@[[ is he going to pay his bills this month while common sense is also telling me.....that's his problem, he's made his bed now he's got to deal with it.....lack of common sense brings about many bad choices in life because the big picture isn't there. While his IQ was high (something he bragged about).......he can't even take care of himself financially & basically can't take care of himself in many other ways either.

There isn't even a twinge of common sense different or otherwise in his thinking.....& most of the time I swore he had no idea how to think at any level other than where his mind was....spaced out somewhere but NOT on drugs or alcohol.