Hey LUTE20,
I can relate - I have a female body but don't identify as a woman. There are some characteristics of this body that I would like to change to make it more androgynous, but I wouldn't want to transition into a male body. From what you write I'd say, yes, you sound like someone who could be on the trans*/genderqueer spectrum - but then those labels (as helpful as they can be sometimes) don't matter much I think, because gender and sexuality come in so many different "shapes" and sizes, and are very fluid.

Personally I think that your child needs to be loved by you, that's the most important thing. And they can only benefit from growing up having someone as a role model who is not obsessed with (and subverts) CISness. Your child will have a chance to grow up not being scared to explore and define their gender as they choose, rather than have it defined for them by the heteronormative matrix. In my opinion, this is so much more valuable and important than learning how "real men/women" behave. Because there is no such thing!