ChipperMonkey, thank you for your comment. However, you are judging...let's be honest. No need to get too hot under the collar - you're not paying the rent

I don't know...perhaps this issue is one of those things that shouldn't be posted online. The situation is not as simplistic as "I'm putting up with this user because I don't want to be alone." For example (one example), there are a lot of pets involved. We have 9 cats, a rat, and a tortoise. Were John and I to separate...what about the pets? We are both attached to them, deeply attached. It's very easy to judge and "fix" things if you're not the person in the situation.

I'm not one to say that John is *all wrong* and I am *all right*. He claims that I am very negative and critical, and that's a possibility. Especially during these past 10 months I have been struggling mightily with depression and severe anxiety.

Really, by posting this I was hoping for communication suggestions. Notice, please, that this particular board is titled "Relationships and Communication."