I'm more disturbed by the fact that he jokes sexually about another girl, to that girl, in your presence. Talk about disrespectful.....

I'd try to let the porn thing go. Every guy I know watches it, and I don't see it as a big deal. Guys are very visual creatures and I think that once you understand that, it makes it easier to let the porn thing go. I think that if you aren't as visually stimulated, then you won't understand why guys like porn so much.