I can speak from the other side-From the point of view of the worker, as I am also in social services. Often people attach to us because we often "have all the answers". The vast majority of us are in helping professions because we truly care about others and can demonstrate that in our jobs. We are also trained to know what to say and how to say it. We don't judge, we listen and are always there. So often, clients attach to us, see us as friends.

This can create big problems however. Your worker most likely generally cares and is concerned for you. But they will set up boundaries and if they see you crossing them they should enforce them. This is for your own good, but also for theirs. I have had BPD clients, before I knew I had BPD and they can be very draining. What is always hardest for me as a counsellor is when my clients act like they are my only client. I end up with some resentment towards them because I feel that they should see that I have other clients that also need my help (that is something I have to work on-part of healthy boundaries is not letting clients 'get to me"...but I also have BPD so...).

Things that may help you is to realize that your worker does genuinely care, however they are human and are doing a job (not trying to say they are "faking" being nice to you-but it is their job to help). If you attach to much it is not good for you or the worker and they will see that and enforce their boundaries).

I don't know if that helps or not-just thought perspective from the other side might help :-)