I'm glad you're seeing a therapist multiple times a week, because your thoughts lean toward the irrational side atm or maybe they're just immature? Idk just observing not judging...

Sorry, I'm not being mean, just making an honest yet blunt observation.

Why is it about his needs and not about your needs?

Well that's simple really.

His needs are based on the present, you two are no longer together and thus any unwanted communication from you, can be seen as harrassment yes.

Your needs are based on the past, and since he's not agreeing to stick to the arrangement of being friends, your needs are unfortunately for you, not his problem anymore.

You 2 are exes, not current anythings. Once people split up, they cease to owe eachother anything. Unless marriage money and kids are involved, but that's a different kettle of fish altogether.

Now, I'm not trying to hurt your feelings, but the truth can't always be wrapped in rainbow pooping unicorns.

I've been where you are, it hurts like hell to be shut out without an explanation, to be ignored no matter the nature of your communication. It hurts... but its not healthy for either of you for you to continue this obsessive behaviour. Any chance that he could or would be your friend post break up is being diminished with each text you send. You are pushing him further and further away, not drawing him closer.

If your stablity played any role in his decision to end the relationship (like mine did) then the incessant communicating to someone who's ignoring you just wreaks of more instability and not less. Thus it makes even a friendship seem like a bad idea to him...

Panda was right on the money, you need to stop this behaviour, before he blocks you or says something hurtful. Which will only lead to you feeling sO much more worse.

You don't need him, you need oxygen, food, sleep, water etc. Him? He's a desirable addition to your life, don't get your wants and needs mixed up. You're experiencing enough turmoil as it is.

Also, as an aside, just because someone chooses to end a relationship doesn't mean they are exhempt from heartbreak. One of the most painful things I did was end a relationship. And even though it was the right thing to do, it hurt like a MOFO and took me months to get over...