Well I had the session today and I will say that it was a mixed bag while she was closer to my age she was very rigid on boundaries and as most people on here know I like to be very flexible with boundaries, she even told me that there are many personal questions that she wouldn't answer and she would usually say "I don't want to answer that" which makes me now not want to ask her anything because I would be very offended if she told me that me and would probably get very upset. I also told her that in doing that it encourages clients to go on themselves and look up information about their therapists and at first she told me that clients could get into a lot of trouble for doing that I reminded her that they really couldn't get in trouble any more that someone else who does certain things (i.e. hack into a computer system) to find information about anyone. Basically what I was trying to say is that as long as they are searching for and looking at information that is freely out there and don't try to hack into a secure database or something along those lines (i.e. need to hack to get into there) than they can not get in trouble for doing it and eventually she did agree with me on that.

We than got into boundaries when it comes to seeing someone outside of Therapy and that was where things really clashed since I became insistent on my viewpoint that meetings are flexible and there are some (very rare) instances where there are no boundaries at all (i.e. intimate type gatherings) and this did cause significant disagreements, especially when she said that if a therapist was to see a client there she is supposed to leave which I go very offended by since as most people know I think you should do the exact opposite and embrace the fact that your client is there (even though in a circumstance like that I don't believe that they are their client because the therapist-client relationship is completely put to the side), even doing a number of things together for the duration of the gathering (or even going to the gathering together in the future). I even told her that if her or any other therapist did something like that (i.e. leave the gathering) than they might as well call me their ex-client because I would terminate the relationship right after that. I did tell her that I think that my viewpoints are set and not to try to get me to change them.

However she didn't agree not to bring in someone external (i.e. a supervisor) if we have any disagreements and that we should hash them out ourselves (even if that means deciding that we can no longer see each other.

I know that many of you people on here also disagree with me on this but I like how everyone at least tries to give me some support on it.

Unfortunately (or maybe fortunately depending on how you look at it) she is booked up next week (her only available days were at the end of the week when I will be away) so I won't see her again for 2 weeks. I decided only to book dates for the last 2 weeks in July and not to book for August right now since I have yet to decide if I will be meeting with her long term or not. I think that I would like to have 2 more sessions to see if we can work things out or not.