Hi 3xjj, I am so very sorry for the pain you're going through. I find that people tend to have tons of advice on relationships and what's "right or wrong". I have no idea of what's right or wrong because everyone is different from everyone else. Based on my own experience, you need to give your ex some time. I'm betting that he might want to be friends (maybe), but he needs time. In the meanwhile, you have to focus on your own well-being. I strongly suggest a support group. I truly believe a group would be really helpful for you.