Hi all update after speaking to therapist to day I am none the wiser. The long and short is they had never heard of it before and although they were quite keen to make sure it had nothing to do with real children they said he'll outgrow this. Personally myself I think that this maybe because they had no answers. I am at a loss. We have tried talking to him since and asked him to come clean to us I would like to think we are able to help whatever he's feeling. At first we were getting nowhere. Then he finally admitted having an "Ache like wanting something so bad it hurts" those words are his. So again we asked what is the problem. He told us we were right and that he was into being a baby and that yes he had been buying stuff, but because of the nature of it he thought that this was something that couldn't be shared and he was hoping we would discover by accident to save him the embarrassment of coming out with it. He's admitted discussing it with his siblings and best friend and apparently they don't care. He's also admitted making his room into a nursery. I have seen it and it is he has playpen and cot in there his old cot from the attic. Also redecorated to look like baby room. This in a week more or less I knew he was redecorating we let them do their own but never dreamed this was what he was up to. My wife took over at this point I couldn't carry on I was in tears blaming myself for not giving him enough attention and love and this was some sort of way to relive that. If that makes any sense. Anyway about an hour later myself and my wife discussed this together and the bought in his siblings to discuss. My reaction was apparently over the top which was to have him committed. Again not what I wanted but anger was overriding my heart. He has asked would it be possible to be a baby for a while? This is where I am now what do I say or do I know we have no younger children at home but it screams wrong. Do we partially agree to some of it? No to all of it? or come to some other arrangement? I was discussing with my brother to see if he had any suggestions he's a fairly broad and open mind and he had none. So if there is any help please feel free to comment I am at a loss we haven't agreed to anything with him it's under discussion and need a lot of time. Many thanks in advance
Rh01 and GC(wife)