Hey Chipper Monkey, that post of yours is pretty rough and full of assumptions. Kills me, how people get online and project all kinds of crap onto others that have absolutely nothing to do with the others and everything to do with ourselves.

3xjj, in my months on this forum I've noticed that sometimes there's support, other times...not so much. I dunno...I used to look for - and find - support online. Not so much anymore. I don't know if it's me, society, or a lack of serendipity, but it seems like a lot of people get online just to vent their frustrations at anonymous others.

Anyway, I really feel for you. I'm certainly not comparing your situation to this one, yet in some way it reminds me...on Facebook I'm friends with a big group of people I grew up with. Some of us are friends IRL and some of us just keep in touch on Fb. Well, there's one man...he and I were boyfriend & girlfriend in our senior year of high school (which was 30+ years ago). I guess you could call it "first love". We had loads of fun times together and did kid stuff...lots of making out, but never actually had sex. So it's not like there's an "awkward" factor present (unless he's recalling things incorrectly!). Anyway, this man is a Fb friend. I would really, really like to have a chat with him online...just a one-time conversation remembering the Good Old Days. Nothing more. Just a catch-up, hey I'm glad we were in each others' lives, remember that night when such-and-such happened, Wow, yeah, those were the days...

It would mean a lot to me. It would put a kind of closure on the pain of our break-up so many years ago. I've lightly & politely commented on some of his posts, "Liked" photos, etc. All he'll ever do is very occasionally "Like" something I comment on of his. I get the feeling that he's sending the message of "Don't try to get any closer". It hurts. It really does. Because I have no ulterior motives...I just want to feel like he and I BOTH acknowledge that one time, long ago, destiny put us together and we liked it, back then.

So...yeah. It hurts when someone you care about sends an unclear message. And, to me, not answering your texts, etc., is an unclear message. Just that you're having to come on this forum and ask US what is going on with HIM tells me that he's not being clear with you. You have to move on, because of course, what else CAN you do? But...that doesn't mean his behavior is okay. And, the best I can offer is what I said before...just try your very best to use this time as a time to work on yourself. And then, when things come together the way things do, you'll meet someone new - and then this other guy will probably suddenly want to be friends again. Life is weird like that.