Lute20,

I agree with you for the most part, but your last line is a little sketchy. I'm not sure how you meant it, but it reads like you're saying that because 702webdev told his wife he was gay/bi, that whatever he does is okay and he can't be blamed...because he is bisexual. It's like being bisexual is a "get out of jail" card.

As I posted before, I've been married for almost two decades as a bisexual man that strongly prefers men over women, including my wife. I'll be honest and say that if you put a naked man and my wife on two beds, I'd leap at the guy in a heartbeat. It 's doesn't mean I don't love my wife. The thing is even with my desires and preferences, I love my wife and I am faithful. I'm not faithful just because I signed a marriage license or because I made a promise, but because I love her.

702webdev married his wife, made a promise, had kids. Having kids isn't just a mechanical act he performed, he made a serious commitment that I suspect (and hope) was made out of love to his wife. I still say that he should be as honest as he can be, tell his wife everything, feelings, fantasies, desires. Be truthful. But if he is unfaithful or dishonest to his spouse, he should be blamed.