I'm sorry she doesn't seem like a great match, hope the next sessions go well. Reading this thread, I'm reminded of the multiple previous threads about your take on boundaries, but I am wondering what issues you are trying to treat/heal in therapy?

Seems like ruminating about and debating the therapists' boundaries versus your own may be a time-consuming distraction. Is it that you also have issues with other peoples' boundaries outside therapy? If so, would it help to talk about those with a therapist?

After all, the therapist is there to help you have a better life outside therapy, I wonder if it wouldn't help to just focus more on that aspect of it? Do you really need to devote much time to the off chance of a meeting at a gathering, since their job is just to help you with the other issues and people in your life, not to really join that life?

I don't mean to seem too harsh, I'm just wondering what's at the heart of all of this. Is there a feeling underneath it all you're trying to deal with? A fear or anger over something? Or is it just that you have a feeling of needing some more human connection and imagine that a T might be able to provide it? I can tell how important this is to you and just wonder what caused that so you can resolve it and feel better.