My therapist and I have talked about how I don't make much progress when I'm busy trying to rationalize, busy talking facts instead of feelings, opinions instead of emotions.

I'm wondering, since this is a longstanding topic for you, what feelings are underneath it? Because before you felt mad at a previous therapist about it, it was already a central topic for you it seems.

Are you feeling angry, sad, scared when you think about boundaries and wanting them to change? What emotionally do you get from this?