So maybe you already do this, but why dont you just go to more intimate gatherings and meet more people? Also, this boundary thing might be a difference between religious and non-religious therapists. maybe you would do better with a religious therapist from your church. Instead of trying to squeeze a square peg into a round hole, so to speak.

Or as scorpiosis asks, what doesnt fit, that you are trying to make fit, into your worldview or whatever. What is it that you just cannot accept? The ONE thing.