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Old Jul 08, 2014, 08:49 AM
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Originally Posted by 3xjj View Post
What about my needs and feelings? He knows I struggle with loneliness and depression. He broke my heart with no good reason. He has a need for space to deal with his feelings, well, I have a need for communication. I have a need for someone who said they cared about and loved me to show some regard for my wellbeing. If I have to suffer not contacting him all the time, can't he occasionally suck up some discomfort and talk to me? That's crap that I have to respect his feelings and he doesn't have to have any respect for mine. I helped and cared for him a lot. At the very least, he should have some concern for me. I hardly see that "Have a good day" is harassment. Why is it all about him? And still, no one has said why he is behaving this way. Because he needs to heal? What does he need to heal from? He's the one that abandoned me.
He does not have to do anything...and the fact he is not doing anything in return is a signal for you that he may not be the person you thought he was. Do not hold on to all the good things - that will only make things harder. You had a life experience - it hurts like heck. Time will take care of this... I know that is not what you want to hear!!!! It took me almost 2 yrs to get over someone I loved so much...it was not terrible pain for 2 yrs but I grieved for a long time.

It's rare to try an have a friendship with a lover - I know you have done it in the past..does not mean that will work every time.
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