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Originally Posted by feralkittymom
I think it's very telling that you seem to view boundaries as being defined externally, rather than based upon internal desires, beliefs, morality, and preferences. That somehow the external can over ride/replace the internal in these determinations.
So in your thinking, the "rules" and conditions of a meeting determine how those involved should relate to each other. But just because people affiliate at any sort of gathering--even within a congregation where we'd assume the members are closer in their beliefs than would be true randomly--doesn't mean they share identical views about anything, including boundaries. The degree to which they will modify their behavior (set boundaries) is based upon internal consideration of morality, ethics, beliefs, and preferences.
Perhaps one of your therapy issues is that you don't experience such considerations as internally determined?
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I would agree with most of this, in fact as scorpiosis37 mentioned marching in a Pride parade, well there was a chance that I was going to march in a Pride parade near where I live with an Asexual group but we didn't raise enough money to march in it (since it cost money in order to obtain an official spot in it) but despite that I would say my views on things such as equality for all are Very different from many of the people marching in the parade.
Although people have been bringing up the fact that socializing in public takes away time with friends and family and I would that for the most part this would probably be true, but I also brought up the possibility of the Therapist and Client having interest in going to and intimate (alternative lifestyle type) gathering but not having anyone else who wants to go, I can tell you that despite how many close friends and family members you may have when it comes to those types of gatherings you may very well (for both the Therapist and Client) not have anyone else (friends or family) who follows that type of lifestyle and thus would want to go to that type of gathering. If that is the case should the Therapist and Client be forced to go to the gathering alone because of that, I say absolutely not it is and intimate type gathering, go together and enjoy it together, I so no boundary crossing in that circumstance.
Also feralkittymom- you are asking me to determine my boundaries internally rather than externally which is not have I believe that boundaries should be established.