Thank you, Petra. I'm trying to find a good article that explains it but I can't. If you find one, I'd appreciate if you post the link.

It does bother me that my T is suggesting that I could be bisexual. She doesn't see anything wrong with that. I keep telling her that I don't have those feelings for other women and that I don't want to have sex with her.

The confusing part is feeling like I'm in love with her and that leads to physical arousal. I don't feel that with my H.
I want to make it clear to her that it's the intimacy causing this. Yet I'm attracted to the way she looks too. So is that the transference? I feel close to her and it seems like love and sex desires are triggered. It's her but it's not her. It's what I wish I had but I know she's not the one to give me that.

I don't think I'm as confused as I am frustrated. I want my T to understand me, and I also wish my H had been the one to be who my T is for me.