You sound like you're probably sensitive to stimuli.That's fine many people are. DBT skills are good to work with but they are still "work." When you see someone or something that is annoying you can start by putting some "space" between you and the event. For example, If you see someone wearing trendy clothes and that triggers anger in you and automatically you want to judge them. Your mind will probably go ahead and make the judgement. Instead of getting all upset observe the judgement and simply note that you are making the judgement. No need to judge that you're making a judgement just note "I'm judging that person." In time you may or may not figure out why you're judging them but for now just take a moment and notice it. You'll be surprised how healing that small amount of space is.