My husband always does the same thing, too, and we end up with late payment charges sometimes. Since I've started paying attention, I've been trying to make sure the bills are paid soon after we get them, so we've been doing better. We're so late with this one because he said the assessor told him to hold off on it after our fire (I don't know why), but we never did hear anything back from them. I think it's best to just go ahead and pay it. We have the half, like I said; and I was going to take that today or tomorrow, but I talked with him on the phone while he was at work, and he said we could just go ahead and pay the whole tax Friday as he gets his check that day. He'll cash his check sometime, and I'll stop in at his work and get the money and go to the courthouse to pay the whole thing. I'm still stressing, though. I don't like it looming over my head and just want it paid and out of the way. Your dad is right lizzyjb. I've regretted things many times because I just didn't deal with them myself. I don't want to completely take over everything, but I'm more active now in making sure I know what's going on, how much money we actually have throughout the week, and getting paid what we can. There's no reason to be behind on a bill if we have the money for it when it comes in. Stress is definitely not good when you're already dealing with something like ptsd, and it seems it just doesn't end. There are no breaks. From getting our house finally, which I didn't think I'd survive through seriously, to now dealing with bills and my husband's phone ringing after he's home, getting called out. I don't like being alone anymore, and that's a big trigger for me, too. But it's been happening so much lately. I don't know how I can heal with the continuing stress.