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Thing is, I really feel guilty now for making all the people in my life suffer with me all this time. Now that I have a diagnosis, I feel bad for how people had to put up with me all this time. I am actually ashamed, now that I have read these testimonies from normal people who had to live with people like me.
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From my point of view.....I don't think you should feel guilty. If there was a huge problem that caused a huge problem in both your lives.....then it would be nice to have communication regarding the situation & to give the other person a better understanding of what was going on & why & let them know that you have a better understanding of what was involved in the situation also. Both people are responsible for the situation even if the actions of one seemed to be the cause....because on the other side of every action is a reaction. But in major situations like that.....communication & clearing up the situation is important to have the discussion & the understanding & not just brush it under the carpet. It's always like that with any disagreement that exists between 2 people no matter what......those things need a resolution for the relationship to either continue or even try to get back together.....but if that's not important.....then....it doesn't really matter.
If it's not a huge thing that has caused a huge problem between 2 people...then there is nothing to feel guilty about either & there are always going to be differences between people.....& if you encounter then again & something comes up....then maybe an explanation might be appropriate for better understanding.
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Also having autism does not make one immune to being a jerk...what is to say in some of these cases the person is acting like a jerk and it has nothing to do with misunderstandings of their autistic traits?
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I think this was definitely the case.....I think that there is part of trying to give them the benefit of the doubt & trying to find the reason behind them being a jerk.....when in reality....that's what they definitely are......& this really hit home for me......THANK YOU
Initially trying to figure out how a nice person could be such a jerk & then finding the line between the why & the just plain jerk.....isn't always that easy.....but you are right...sometimes it's just plain jerk that causes the action.
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That's my feelings exactly. People think I'm a machine too. I've had the experience before where I actually told a girl that I loved her, and she said that she was totally surprised and shocked, and that it was so unexpected from me. So, I guess nobody expected me to be capable of such feelings
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I don't think that it was the thought that nobody expected you to be capable of such feelings.....usually there is a buildup of things being said & feelings that exchange before getting to that point in a relationship.....& if she never felt or heard some of those clues before you came out with the "I LOVE YOU" it would naturally come as a shock.....just a little insight that might give a bit of understanding. Relationships are difficult enough no matter what......but communication is such an important part of relationships & when communication is difficult, it makes it that much more difficult to get all the pieces of the puzzle to come together