For me it was my way of protecting myself. That she would hurt me like I was hurt in my original relationships with mom and dad. This is how I approached all relationships with lovers, friends, etc. as an adult. Why should I trust her. It was her job to just be there for me, and have no expectations of me until I could let myself be vulnerable, and that was not easy for me. Trust her, I did, and she proved she was worthy of my trust. Our relationship, became the model for me to build new relationships, and reconfigure old relationships, even dump some unhealthy ones, allowing me to have rich encounters with family, friends, and coworkers. Are they always perfect? No, but I don't hide myself away anymore. One of the unhealthy relationships I let go of was a client that I referred to her. She was tenuous n her guidance of me. I will always be grateful.