Hi phillis1981 and welcome to PC! Glad to see you've found your way to this forum
I do not think you are an idiot for loving your ex wife, it seems like she's definitely left the door open for feelings.
I think the best thing you can do it ask her straight out what she wants and tell her what you want. If you want to have an exclusive relationship with her again then tell her that, if she says she doesn't want that then you'll know and be able to start the long journey of moving on.
If you don't ever ask you'll keep holding on to your feelings and never know what she truly wants.
Good luck and again, welcome to PC! I hope you will find what you need here.
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Allie
Diagnosed: Generalized Anxiety Disorder & Obsessive Compulsive Disoder. Previous: Borderline Personality Disorder.
I no longer qualify for a diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder, but there will always be my borderline traits that I struggle with especially during times of great stress.
I've been working passionately as a therapist since December 2016
