Exactly. You're doing fine it appears. And if it helps... the other extreme reaction to an upbringing like your father gave you is emulation. Imagine how much worse that would have been. BTW you picked a great discipline for confidence/self defence. Boxing and BJJ are far and above the best self defence techniques.
I kind of get what you mean by the warrior mentality. Keep an eye on that and don't allow it to get out of hand.
Basically.... yeah you're doing great... keep at it!