I can usually forgive pretty easily. I mainly just want to get along with people and have no dischord. What is hard for me is that it seems I forgive people over and over again, but they don't change and things keep happening/I keep getting hurt. After our fire in which I lost my 10 cats that were pretty much like children to me (I do have one human child, too), several of my in-laws attacked me so to say on facebook a few weeks later, saying I didn't need any more cats or trying to dictate how many I should have, etc. After I came back on them, they ended up removing their comments and one of them unfriended me. I left things alone and carried on to later make a post about grief probably a few more weeks later and was again attacked by a sister-in-law via personal message this time, calling me a hoarder and telling me how "nasty" my house was - and of course I wasn't just mourning my cats but my house as well and still am. I'd do anything to have it back no matter how "nasty" to her it was. It really hurt. But yes, I forgave her. During the process of getting our new house in, she was around, so I tried to get along and have no hard feeling now, and I've started answering the phone again when she calls. The thing is, it's very possible something else could happen with her, and the same happens with my own family members. I have no hard feelings after the hurt is gone, but I seem to get hurt time and again by the same people.