I was one in the past that turned my anger in on myself (drugs drink) Attitude was ....I'll show them! Then I found it did not affect them one way or the other, what I did to myself. Now days I look at it kinda like lizzardlady, I ask myself is it worth the energy and the answer is ---It is usually not worth raising my blood pressure over. I do practice being assertive rather than aggressive or repressive. Life is so much easier now.