Sometimes what I say to myself "doesn't work" so I decide to think something else and having someone else's suggestion, hey, if that doesn't work either, what will I have had to lose? I was a worrier and worry is all about an unknowable future and when I get worried now I spend a lot of time either trying to think of practical things to do to lessen the need to worry or I think of alternative scenarios for the future where better things happen, since it is all my imagination. Believing what T says instead of what my imagination says: six of one/half dozen of the other? When I know what is right/works for me, I don't need others' input.