I wasnt raised by Roy Rogers and Dale Evans. More like Bonnie and Clyde. Not the best role models for success in the adult world, and not the best caretakers of children. So "honoring my parents" is problematic for me, to say the least. They taught me a way to go, a way to be in the world, that was convenient for them, but does not work for me, but feels so right to me, even as it fails. This calls to mind battered woman syndrome. "I believe my therapist?" i have asked him to help me live as if i HAD been raised better. After this comes scientific method - i have seen results. Better results than with previous ts. Hope this answers your question. And i dont think you can dance by yourself. Thats what my parents made me do. They left me out while they huddled together in secret. Thats just mean.