No one else seems entangled . My husband seems to be a part of the struggle yet never frets. My daughter can create a lot of pain in me and I too often just take it in but think it is one step from impossible to work anything out with her. I just keep trying to be nice but it just hurts sometimes more than helps. Right now I am just leaving that alone but I do keep talking with my husband. Seems hard for him to get the level of kindness and attention that I seem to need. Maybe, right now, it is just too much want of comfort. Yet , that seems to be a lot of the source of pain. Reassurance, caring , comfort when It hurts so much . I do not like being critically dealt with or being just forgotten . I guess it feels like I need support. Love, kindness, consideration, care, gentleness , I try to be like that but That is also what I want . Sounds terrible when there is also some good. Confusing all this in and out.