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Originally Posted by Rh01
Hi All.
I have been to see a psychologist/therapist today he was a little more helpful. My Son 1st and foremost has to agree to get help. Sometimes it's better to make them see themselves if that's possible the hurt and grief they are causing. He has said that while there has been little or very little research on this subject that there is no definite cure. The best we could probably hope for is my Son to keep his little side private. He said that it uses the same principles as the cross dresser or transgender it's possibly sexual although in this case he nearly certain it's not. He said sometimes the only way to fix something is to break it first. There are a couple of routes we can take the 1st is to let my son be his baby self for an agreed period of time in the safe environment of our home this option achieved by his own doing.
2nd same again but with our help and for us to keep notes on his progress and ask questions and find out how he is feeling at different points ie: after feeding sleeping or being changed. This as you can imagine is reliant an how far our own comfort zone will allow.
3rd Confine him to his room only to do as he wishes not in our own living area. This option maybe tricky as could cause son to withdraw and feel isolated and or an embarrassment to the family.
The therapist did say that the better he feels the more likely we are to get him to agree with therapy. So where do I go now? Does this sound correct to you. Therapist also said this is not going to be an overnight cure it's going to take some time. If you have any ideas let me know and thanks all for all the help greatly appreciated.
Rh01  |
I think you pretty much have to let him be his baby self in private whenever he wants. Otherwise, he'll just do it in secret anyway. But I think you can make the deal with him that he goes to therapy for this too, and that you get to have meetings with the therapist too about him, from time to time. You mentioned cross-dressing, and it does seem to me that this baby acting phenomenon is similar to that in some ways. Your therapist says there isn't much research on this. But I bet there has been lots written by about this, especially by people who have this "fetish" (I'm not sure "fetish" is really the right term, but I bet some people would call it that). I bet you can find old books about it, and find tons about it on the Internet, somewhere. Will he ever outgrow it? Hard to say. Do some young people do cross-dressing for a while, then never do it again? I think so, in some cases. Perhaps he will simply learn to keep in control, and do it only on somewhat rare, special occasions. Is this behavior related to and caused by something in his past, like a trauma in his early childhood or babyhood? Maybe. Do you recall anything like that? Maybe he does. Is this behavior related to and caused by something in his present or recent past, such as being rejected by someone at school, or getting booted out of a clique at school, or puberty, or a car accident, or a fight at school, or being bullied at school, or a recent first sexual encounter that left him upset? Well, maybe his therapist could pull any such thing out of him. Good luck.