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Old Jul 09, 2014, 06:04 PM
Anonymous322424
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First, I think it will ruin your life if you just move out and move in with this man. You cannot do that to your parents! They raised you from a baby and have provided you with everything. I assume they are paying for your university cost. So please don't even think of being so ungrateful and harsh to your parents. They are your family. They will be your parents for all of your life and all of their life. Compared to what your parents have done for you, what has this man done for you? Okay, he makes you feel good right now. But so what. That isn't really that much. Will you feel good about him in one year from now, or two, or five? Maybe. Maybe not. Your parents are your parents forever. Don't through that away for a man who may not end being in your life for the rest of your life--you just don't know. It is easy to be "in love" and feel so good that it seems like nothing else matter. But that "in love" feeling ALWAYS passes in time. If he is a good man, you will still like him and respect, but you eventually you will no longer be "in love" with him. That's just caused by hormones and the natural sex drive.
Second, if the man really loves you, he will be patient, and will accept that things may have to go slow with your parents, and that he may not be able to see you for a while.
Third, I think you can continue to "work on" your parents, that is, work on getting them to give this man a chance. So I am not recommending that you give up. Perhaps you can negotiate some sort of deal with your parents, such as they will allow a visit in 3 months if you in return do something that they want you to do.
Fourth, don't lie or be sneaky and see this man behind your parent's back. That is betrayal. That is wrong. You'll regret it if you do it.
Thanks for this!
happiedasiy