Thanks TomThomas
You say let him do this in private. I do agree but I'm frightened of him feeling rejected if I shun him away to his room if indeed he was keeping it private I wouldn't bother it's not really a concern if it's by himself to himself as long as no children are involved or non consensual then I draw the line completely. You can see our predicament it's difficult at the very least. I do agree though that a therapist is required at the very least to explain and diagnose so hopefully fingers crossed we get through this on the side of the good. Thanks again and all the best
Rh01