I personally think the thing about having to carry on your family name is OVERRATED. If you have a woman who cares as deeply about you as you do her & her kids adore you & wish you were their father......to throw that all away for some overrated masculine gotta carry on the family name.....is just truly SAD......throwing all that way for something like that....& who knows what you will end up with if you choose that option.

Whether he would give up his kids to allow you to adopt them....well, who knows if he's that arrogant.....you commented in one of your posts that he shot at her with her young 3 year old at the time?????

Maybe you can't adopt them at this point in their life legally, but you can be more of a father to them than their biological sperm doner has been & honestly that's the most important thing in a childs life is to have a good role model to base their life on.....& it does have more impact......& who knows...maybe after they are of age, they can allow you to adopt them in name after their sperm doner is out of the picture.

Just think you are throwing away something good that you have for the desire to have a child by someone you don't even know & don't even know that you will meet anyone that you love enough to want to marry & have kids with.