I'm sorry that you feel so deeply hurt. I used to think of things in the same respect as you did, but I realized that my T is fairly attached to me as I am to her. She has told me how she's thought of me out of session on multiple occasions and proven time to time that I'm 'important' to a large degree to her. I don't know if she attached similarly to all of her clients in this way, but she's suggested to me she doesn't. I don't really think about that part because I wouldn't want to take away a good relationship from her and any of her other clients in order to be "her favorite", etc. I understand that she could hurt me if she wanted to, she's even told me this, but I allow her actions to be all telling and she's proven time and time again that she cares for me. My insecurities won't let me 100% positive that she's not going to hurt or abandon me but...really there's no guarantee that anyone we meet in life won't.

I think everyone deserves to find a good T like this and it's worth "shopping around" if the one someone see's isn't providing the connection that they need (assuming it's within the realms of healthy boundaries).