Today we were discussing my e-mail to T in which I wrote:

"... I guess, I was just angry with you for the whole week without any particular reason, you could call it transference (sorry that not the positive one) if you'd like to but I guess it is just much easier to be angry with you than with any other person."

And T said that the word "transference" is very commonly used and sometimes it really takes place but sometimes it is just used by some therapists against clients, like it is T's weapon which they can use whenever a client is angry (or any other feeling) at their therapists. While often a client is angry with a therapist because of the therapist and not because of something what happened 30 years earlier... - that's what my T said, do you agree with it? I think I do, but I know that on this forum the word "transference" is very often used so I'm curious about your opinions...

My T said that she'll rather say that she triggered me (which could also be both positive and negative) than say that I just experience transference... Has any other T suggested something like that?