I think it takes a good T to be able to figure out what is going on if the client is unable to. I think both can be the case . I believe if I told my T I was angry with her all week .as soon as she woke up from passing out she would want to help me figure out why and if there was a reason for it that she could work on or if it was transference. I do think some T often run straight to the transference . I would hope any T would be willing to explore if there may be a reason other then transference that has gotten you angry. your T sounds very wise