Hi there. Welcome. This is a decision only you can make for yourself. I wish it was a clear black or white decision, but it sounds very complicated. You're going to have to weigh all the pros and cons and decide which decision feels right for YOU. You made a commitment to your wife. Is that commitment stronger than your commitment to your family? Only you can answer that question for yourself.

If you stay with your family and give up your wife, how will you feel about that? If you go to your wife and your family never speaks to you again, how will you feel about that? Which would be worse?

Hypothetically, if I were married and in love and my parents didn't approve of the person I loved, I would be very sad about that, but I wouldn't give up my spouse. I think it's unfair for your family to ask you to choose between them and your wife. I wish that they would be happy for you that you have found a woman you love. I'm sorry you're in such a difficult predicament.