Yes, of course both can happen, but I think that it is also true that we (at least I) react based on our experiences but at the same time it doesn't necessarily mean that all my reactions are just because of the transference...

And what do you think (if I can ask of course) about using "transference" by therapists? Is it actually necessarily to talk about it and "label" somehow the client or would it be enough just to explore the reasons why someone thinks/feels something without getting into details if it is actually the transference or not? I also started being curious if we - clients (or e.g. I) do not use this word as an excuse, that we don't have to take the responsibility for our feelings (okay I know, we cannot be responsible for it but I hope you know what I mean) as we always can "blame" transference...

I don't know just some thoughts on Thursday afternoon...