I just stumbled back on this account and had forgotten all about it. I just wanted to give an update to this. So, it is now 2014. I FINALLY separated from him in June of 2013! I kept trying to make it work with him for 7 more years! OMG. It was horrible. It never got any better. Or, it would get better for a week or two at a time, if I tried REALLY HARD. And even since then, I have waffled back and forth, thinking that somehow I could make it work with him. I can just say that it is REALLY HARD to deal with these people, and it is really hard to get away from them too. I have been through a lot of soul searching where he is concerned. Sometimes they can seem normal, and that is so heartbreaking. But they always eventually, go back to abusing you.