Stopdog, correct me if I'm wrong, but I think I read that other thread you refer to in creating the poll, and the other person commented that you were Dismissive attachment, and that the therpist did not seem respond in ways that would be appropriate with this attachment style. You didn't comment (that I recall seeing) and I'd be interested to hear your take on that. Do you agree, disagree, or something else?

For me, I'm not sure what my attachment style is but when I was a teen, a psychologist did an assessment on me that said I had a split between really wanting connection and to be close to others, but pushing others away and not letting this happen. I thought that was intersting. Anyways, I answered I'd want to change my attachment style because I'm not in a relationship, very lonely and would like to be in one someday, but it scares the poop out of me so I don't let anything ever even come close. So I guess I voted I'd want to change my attachment, but I think after reading skies' answer, I vote for what skies said. I want to heal the core issues/underlying problems that are preventing a secure attachment to another human being who will or can actually reciprocate this (ie, not a t).

Hope that helps and best of luck to you Stopdog.