my t doesn't even use the word transference. i lamented once about how attached (a word I picked up here) i felt (i don't like getting attached - i don't do it easily) and he was like, 'i'm not going to complain that you like coming to therapy.' lol (i deal with depression and i struggle with trusting people because of my history - so he likes to major on the positives). i'm still not fully sure of what transference is, like i don't feel like fatherly feelings (he's too young imo), i have a good marriage so i don't wish i was with my t (he's attractive though so i won't pretend i haven't had a fantasy here or there lol). i guess i wish we could hang as friends (and he's said that to me before, he tells me i'm fun to talk to and we share similar tastes in reading and movies so we've had times where we've talked about the latest movies or whatnot). i probably feel it more when i'm feeling super low - when i'm feeling okay i hardly give him two thoughts. i guess it might be like a doctor, who thinks about the doctor when they're not sick

but like none of that interferes with therapy so i don't really analyze it that much.