Dear akpc19,

You asked for advice and you got it, maybe not the answers you were looking for.
The advice you got was the truth. Unbiased, from people who dont know you/parents/boyfriend.
You are 20 and will most likely have more than "one love" in your life before "the one" that will endure with family and children.
I am empathetic that you feel torn and taking a break with this boyfriend will be very painful but this will pass.
You are upset, not a time to make critical decisions like moving to live with him.
Stay in school so you will be self sufficient young woman, with a degree.
The fact that you want a good relationship with your family accounts to the good job they did with you. Mother may not express emotions/ think about the restrictions she lived under. Every generation brings change. Underneath the hard exterior is a soft woman who wants the best for you. I don't see their point of view on him changing, especially if they are traditional. Too many flaws from the start.
We live and we learn. I liked the advice that suggested an introduction as a friend.
Sincerely,
Happiedasiy